Has it ever happened to you where you thought that, maybe if I had taken the advice of my friend, I would have landed a better job or if I take this business decision, it may not yield good results in the future? I’m sure most of us look back to the decisions we have taken and feel that, maybe if we had done something else, the situation would have been better. Not just that, we also keep worrying about the repercussions of the decisions we are about to take. 

In the conflict between, ‘I wish I had…’ and ‘What will happen if…?’ which increases the level of uncertainty, after a certain point in time we are not sure whether what we did or what we are about to do is right. This second guessing, regrets of the past, lack of faith in what we are about to do clearly shows that ‘maybe’ we don’t trust ourselves!

I have always believed that trusting yourself and having faith in what you do, makes you a stronger person and helps you deal with any challenge head on. I briefly mentioned about it in my previous article ‘Have You Listened to Yourself Lately?’ too, where I talked about how trusting your inner voice can help you be successful in whatever you do. However, feeling otherwise, can only lead to stress which in turn affects your mental health. 

Learning to trust yourself may sound simple, however, may not be easy to implement when we critique ourselves harshly. Here’s how I learnt being kind to myself, which has certainly helped me be stronger mentally and I hope it works for you too. 

Learn to let go

I have never had any regrets in whatever I have done so far in my life. May it be failing in a few subjects during my graduation, switching my career from being a scientist to an insurer or any business decision I have taken so far, even if it didn’t lead to the outcome I expected. Clinging to what you could have done otherwise, only leads to stress and I feel that if you can’t undo what’s already done, there’s no point thinking about it. I also feel that whatever I did then, I must have done it because then it felt right, otherwise why will I take that particular step? 

This trust in whatever you are doing, letting go of what’s already done and moving on from there, helps you stay in the present and do what best can be done at that point in time. 

Learn to believe in yourself, forgive, forget and keep on doing the good work, everything else will fall in place. 

Don’t overthink

Although I have not been super spontaneous in terms of decision making, I believe in doing my background research and act based on my judgement of what I feel is right. I trust my instincts, my people at work who are helping me and take the plunge. I remember that famous adage: ‘Think twice before you act’. That does hold true. However, it doesn’t mean that you overthink so much that towards the end you are confused about what’s right and what’s not. Overthinking only increases the burden on your brain, it not just utilises too much mind space, but also tires it to the point where you are left clueless. Doing so, only makes decision making difficult. Start with the foundation of trusting yourself in what you are doing and whatever the repercussions are, be ready to face them, good or bad. 

Be passionate about what you do

If you really love and enjoy what you are doing, you automatically start trusting yourself with it. I have seen that in both my daughters, one is a doctor who even in such testing times on duty is enjoying her work and the other who is an engineer, strives to be a perfectionist in whatever task at hand. 

I have observed that irrespective of the challenges they must facing, they are still content and happy. It makes me feel that if you are passionate about something, nothing can get in your way. There is no self-doubt, instead, you are more confident as you are whole-heartedly dedicated towards it. 

There are various external factors which may not be in our control and may affect us mentally. However, one thing that is certainly under our control and which can reduce the impact of these external factors is trusting ourselves. Learn to believe in yourself, forgive, forget and keep on doing the good work, everything else will fall in place. 

Focus on the now and strive for happiness, rather than brooding over the past and worrying about the future. Never lose faith in yourself, doing so will simplify complicated situations in your life and make you a stronger and a more sorted person mentally. You spend the most time with yourself, learn to trust yourself and you will be a happy person!


  • Tapan Singhel

    MD & CEO

    Bajaj Allianz General Insurance

    Tapan Singhel has a rich experience in the insurance industry of more than 30 years. He has been with Bajaj Allianz General Insurance for over 20 years and is the Company’s MD & CEO for close to 10 years. He also chairs the CII National Committee on Insurance and Pensions. He has been the President of Indo-German Chamber of Commerce and is now a board member. Under his leadership, the company has emerged as one of the largest and the most profitable private general insurer in the country ensuring growth, profitability and customer-centricity. In Mr. Singhel’s decade long stint as the MD & CEO, the Company has achieved a cumulative underwriting profit of more than ₹ 350 crore, grew its revenue at a CAGR of 16 %, grew its net profit (PAT) at a CAGR of more than 30% with a double growth in solvency ratio from 156% to close to 350%. Customer obsession and passion to do good for the people are what drives Tapan and his success in the industry. A scientist by education, but insurer at heart he works towards making a difference in the lives of people in whatever little way he can. Tapan has not only transformed the company, but has also been a trendsetter in the insurance industry by always taking the first leap towards innovating to enhance the customer service standards. Under his able leadership, Bajaj Allianz General Insurance has transformed the distribution of insurance by being the first company in the country to start Bancassurance. He also envisaged and implemented, Virtual Sales Office, which is a 100% digital office. Addressing customer worries is what drives him to ideate and implement innovative products and services. For instance, settling motor claims in a matter of minutes with the help of Motor OTS, taking care of new-age cyber risk through Bajaj Allianz Individual Cyber Safe Policy, industry’s first Pet Dog Insurance policy and introduction of Health Infinity, a health insurance policy with unlimited sum insured. His leadership has been recognized across the globe. He was honoured as the 'Personality of the Year' at Quantic’s BFSI Excellence Awards 2021, India Insurance Summit & Awards 2019, 22nd Asia Insurance Industry Awards 2018 and Indian Insurance Summit 2017. He was also awarded the title of Best CEO at Insurance Asia Awards and was recognized as the Most Promising Business Leaders of Asia 2018 by The Economic Times. By always imbibing the principle of empathy towards customers and employees, he has been instrumental in the organisation being recognised on various forums. To name a few, Best Digital Insurer in Asia for IDC Financial Insights Innovation Awards 2021, Non-Life Insurer Provider of the Year by Outlook Money Awards 2020, Best Motor Insurance Provider of the Year at the prestigious Business Today-Money Today Financial Services Awards 2021. The Company has also won the coveted Porter Prize award under the category of Creating Distinct Value in 2019. Tapan is known for his ‘Communicative Leadership’ style, where he believes in engaging regularly with employees and customers through social media.