Designing your life the way you want it, isn’t this something that all of us root for? We all, at some point in our lives,we all  have visualized what we want our future to look like. At times, the picture could look hazy, even impossible to achieve but remember, you are the only one who could decide for yourself. 

Getting a smile designed is something that is pretty similar to life, don’t you think? You make a decision to change your smile since this particular change would better resonate with your personality and would make you happy. Even in life, when something doesn’t seem to be your calling, you are faced with 2 alternatives: a) Continuing with the old ways and blaming your fate for the same; b) Not living in denial and hence, taking steps to mold your life the way you want it to be. The latter is easier said than done, I agree, however, it is not impossible. More often than not it is the unpleasant experiences that make you realize this is not something you want, and would lead to self-discovery

Self-discovery is an important and probably, an inescapable part of life. It is synonymous with being your defense mechanism, asking you to break free from the clutches of the mundanity that you are currently stuck in. The difference between people who enjoy their work and the people who crib about it all the time is that the former learned what makes them happy and acted upon it while the latter continue to blame their fate. And isn’t it paradoxical to blame your fate? You have been born on this beautiful planet as one of the most advanced and intelligent species, yet, you curse your fate. You are destined to achieve great things in life, however, you will have to first discover yourself and this my friend, is an extenuating task. It won’t be easy and for everyone who is in their 20s, the path to discover yourself has just begun. Along the way, you will come across several instances, several experiences, some pleasant while some leaving a sour taste in your mouth. Together, these different episodes would allow you to discover who you truly are and what it is that gives you the utmost joy. 

To summarize, there are 3 very important steps that can lead to self-discovery:

1. Dig deeper into the unpleasant experiences:

The circumstances that have been unpleasant to you, make a list of them. Through this exercise, you will understand the things that do not make you happy and things that you would want to change in your life. 

2. Identify what makes you happy:

Make a list of all the different things that give you joy. Now, it is important that the things you jot down act as a catalyst to your growth and good health. Bingeing on ice cream or cakes are some of the vices we do enjoy, however, these are not a part of your long-term growth. Hence, prioritization is imminent.

3. Designing your Life:

Now that you are aware of things that make you happy, start building your life around those. Learn how can you repeat those things in your daily life, start doing them more often, and do not make any excuses. Your fate is in your own hands. You are in charge of your life and nobody can ever take that from you ever. 


  • Dr Karishma Vijan

    Dental Surgeon, Author, Philanthropist

    Dr Karishma Vijan is a Mumbai-based practising dentist focusing on cosmetic and restorative dentistry. She has written articles for several national and international scientific journals. After losing a close family acquaintance to cancer, and witnessed the prolonged suffering that came with the disease, Dr Vijan was devastated. She did not want to wait till she was 'old enough' to make a difference to the world through her professional  skills or her intention of philanthropy. She decided to turn her loss into purpose, and thus was born The Unicorn Xpress Foundation & Trust (Tux). The nonprofit's motto is ‘Empowerment through Healthcare’ and it works with underprivileged women across several cities in India. Dr Vijan has received the WEF 2019 prestigious ‘Iconic Women Creating a Better World for All’ award, and has been invited as speaker at Plenary Sessions at the annual international gathering gala edition for the Women Economic Forum, 2019. She has also been named one of the 'Most Inspiring Women in Healthcare across India' as a part of the Bumble Bizz campaign for women. Dr Vijan was also featured in the list of ‘100 Most Impactful Global Healthcare Leaders' at the World Health & Wellness Congress 2019 by ET Now.